Today I was talking to a friend I had not spoken with in awhile and realized how differently I felt compared to the last time I had spoken with him. I was so much happier and was in a completely different frame of mind. As I began thinking about what was new, not only did a flood of all my new opportunities flood into my mind, but also all the new choices I had made that led up to my newfound lifestyle. #1 I am getting much better at MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS! #2 I am choosing to be positive instead of assuming the worst. #3 I am starting to see things one day at a time rather than FUTURE TRIPPING. #4 I do my best never to sacifice my own health and sanity for any other person, period.
So as I was thinking about all of these changes in myself, I began to really see the value of minding my own business. Without minding my own business, I would not have the time or energy to work on myself or change the things I have. I am not proud of it, but I have been a mastermind at minding everyone else's business... super cool right? Sigh... For some reason I just seem to think that I know the best way that everyone should be living. Unfortunately, even if I were right about what they should be doing, I am doing myself a HUGE disservice because I've now cheated myself out of all that advice I could have used in my own life. Once I started focusing on my own business, I found I had PLENTY to work on... = ]
I began seeing things that made me unhappy that I had the ability to change them. I recognized ways that I was allowing people to treat me that I didn't like, and I focused on ways to respect myself. I revisited rusty dreams that I craved to achieve and I took steps to achieve them. There is no way that I could have even begun to improve myself if I was still involved in other people's junk. The other AMAZING thing that I have found since I began to get the hell out of other people's business is, as I got healthier, other people did too! People actually did BETTER without my advice! Unbelievable.
I love how when people have to answer their own questions, figure out their own finances, choose their own relationships, pick their own diet etc etc... they find empowerment and self respect. Oftentimes, they begin to make healthier decisions as they experience their own consequences and the dignity that comes with their own success and failure. I was never meant to take over other people's lives and make all their choices for them, and neither of us are happy when I try to make it work anyway. I was meant to live MY life and give people the dignity to make their own decisions whether I think they are right or not. When we operate the way we were meant to, life is beautiful!
So today what is one thing that you can let go of that maybe isn't your business? Are there untended things in your life that you have neglected because you haven't been taking care of your own business?
So as I was thinking about all of these changes in myself, I began to really see the value of minding my own business. Without minding my own business, I would not have the time or energy to work on myself or change the things I have. I am not proud of it, but I have been a mastermind at minding everyone else's business... super cool right? Sigh... For some reason I just seem to think that I know the best way that everyone should be living. Unfortunately, even if I were right about what they should be doing, I am doing myself a HUGE disservice because I've now cheated myself out of all that advice I could have used in my own life. Once I started focusing on my own business, I found I had PLENTY to work on... = ]
I began seeing things that made me unhappy that I had the ability to change them. I recognized ways that I was allowing people to treat me that I didn't like, and I focused on ways to respect myself. I revisited rusty dreams that I craved to achieve and I took steps to achieve them. There is no way that I could have even begun to improve myself if I was still involved in other people's junk. The other AMAZING thing that I have found since I began to get the hell out of other people's business is, as I got healthier, other people did too! People actually did BETTER without my advice! Unbelievable.
I love how when people have to answer their own questions, figure out their own finances, choose their own relationships, pick their own diet etc etc... they find empowerment and self respect. Oftentimes, they begin to make healthier decisions as they experience their own consequences and the dignity that comes with their own success and failure. I was never meant to take over other people's lives and make all their choices for them, and neither of us are happy when I try to make it work anyway. I was meant to live MY life and give people the dignity to make their own decisions whether I think they are right or not. When we operate the way we were meant to, life is beautiful!
So today what is one thing that you can let go of that maybe isn't your business? Are there untended things in your life that you have neglected because you haven't been taking care of your own business?
It does feel good to let go of other people's stuff. Another good post Jill!
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